Many of Our children come to the turning point of their lives when they reach their 10th or 12th standard. The parents are in a mixed view point and tend to adopt the requirement of the situation than to access their interest or need. It is important to make them love their professional lives so as to continue enjoying life everyday.
Wisdom is knowledge gained by experience and the most sincere contributor for a child is their parents. It is important to the parent to teach what they have learned or gained. Imparting this abundance of wealth is the greatest gift of a Parent rather than send them easily to some tuition centres while working to make that money. As long as this is within their learning it is easier but seek professional help only as an alternative even at the same time trying to morally help with the lessons taught by such tuitions. In an age when most of the Indians are literate one need to sacrifice time to involve the child to confide in.
Creating a new bond of attachment and closeness improves the child to be motivated positively. It is also not the highest marks or percentages that are important but the contribution of such sacrifices for imparting the knowledge. Any grading will indicate only the aptitude of the person to what they are evaluated but on the scale of life we find such evaluations are impossible except by the Almighty.
If we look into the lives of animals we find how such cycles are nature bound, how a young cuckoo learns to fly, how a cub is made to hunt, how a herd protects a young offspring. We must learn many such Lessons of Life to be richly cultivated into our lives as what our creations was meant for. This cycle will contribute in a long way to bring about family unity and love with the importance of sharing knowledge.
Learning a profession is also not to be taken as a benchmark for making more money, as being selfish but as contribution for the society at large. How many of us take our time out to be with our children to sacrifice and give to them what we have gained teaching a lesson of our lives maybe a failure or a success story. If many of the children are told of the struggles of the Parents/ Grandparents/relatives, it would invoke a great feeling of responsibility to wake up in their lives. On the contrary we find many parents shying away to secretly shield their failures while trying to present themselves wealthy, giving to all want of their children. Perhaps this is one of the corner stones of many failed individuals.
The older generations were lucky in this respect to gain from the elders in a joint family arrangement but now that being destroyed the child have not been exposed to sincere relationships, sacrifices and love.
I hope that we can come back to our wisdom of ages to start all over again, shun away unnecessary luxuries while trying to focus to bringing up yet another responsible generation to live, enjoy and be happy in all their lives thereby praising God always.
-Donald D'Cruz, Bethan Ville, Mundakkal west, Kollam 691001. ddonalddcruz@hotmail.com