The mother of Zebedee’s sons (Mt 20:20-28) came
with her sons to make a request of Jesus;'Promise that these two sons of mine may sit one at your right hand and the other at your left in your kingdom.'
When she understood that is not possible she did not give up. She got the inspiration that her sons must be prepared to drink the cup that Jesus would drink. Then on wards her desire was to make her sons eligible to drink. She prepared and her son James (Jacob) became the first martyr of the Apostles. Always desire the best possible for you and your loved ones.